I adore making goals and resolutions. I love having a plan — even if the plan falls through. And I love having a handy list of goals and daydreams where I can focus my thoughts when I’m discouraged or distracted. Goals and Resolutions function as a map for me as I head into the foggy unknown of the new year.
Our family keeps a journal where we record our resolutions. To help our kids get started thinking about the coming year, they get a short reminder (read: lecture) about what resolutions are for — to become better people. Then, Ben Blair and I offer them prompter questions to get them started:
This year, I want to learn: __________
I want to read: __________
I want to make: __________
I want to visit: __________
I want to change: __________
(The change prompt is supposed to help you think of something like a bad habit you’d like to get rid of.)
I want to be better at: __________
Most of all I want: __________
The journal is a treasure! It’s also a wonderful resource where the kids can see how much they’re growing and changing. The older kids love to read the resolutions from their early years — here are Olive’s resolutions at age 5:
Olive’s 2007 resolutions:
I want to learn: ballet, again
I want to read: all kinds of books
I want to make: a playdough horse
I want to change: (she couldn’t think of anything she wanted to change)
I want to visit: Emily Dowdle (a neighbor)
Most of all I want: an Ariel barbie
Five years old is so cute!
Are you a goal-lover like I am? Do you make yearly goals with your kids? Any tips or traditions you’d like to share?
P.S. — Famous resolutions.
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what a great idea, truth be told, i could use this very same list for myself.
I love the idea of a family resolution journal! How sweet to look back on your little ones’ changing goals for themselves…
I’ve had bad associations with resolutions in the past — probably because it struck me too much as a futile exercise in trying to break my every bad habit all at once, something I knew couldn’t stick. But lately I’ve started thinking about resolutions in terms of more attainable and specific goals, like you mentioned — “run in a 10K” rather than the vague “get fit,” that sort of thing — and I find that they work a lot better for me. And putting some goals on the list that are sheer fun (rather than just for self-improvement) makes the whole exercise so much more enjoyable! “Make a playdough horse” is the kind of goal I can get behind. ;)
I agree! I’m much better with smaller, specific goals.
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This is a GREAT idea, I’m going to sit down with my daughter this afternoon and try it out on her :)
I don’t like the resolutions model, heh, but I do set yearly goals! This year, I decided my big goal was to have more fun with my family – even if my job tries to get in the way. Personally, I want to dance again (check!) and start really trying piano. And I’m starting a business, so I want that to work out, too!
Hey, I’m of fan of goal-making in all of its forms. : ) Thumbs up to dancing and piano!
The prompter questions seem so good with kids that I might even give this a go myself! I just know that the answers would make good, and likely funny, memories.
These questions are great for us grown-ups too! I’m literally printing them out now and will be filling in the blanks, then posting them on my fridge. Cheers to 2013!
Yay! I’m so glad they’re helpful. Cheers right back at you!
Oh, it’s a really good idea, thank you, I’ll try it with my kid’s this week end
We love New Years resolutions! Each year each family member gets a momiji doll. ( these are great little wooden dolls, created by artists, with a slip to keep a message inside.) we each write our favorite memory from the last year on one side, and our next years resolution on the other. Our only rule is to make it “measurable”. This year my girls had “try gymnastics” (6yo) and “make a new friend (7yo). I love it because it is a peice of art to display always and a wonderful keepsake to look back on!!
What a fantastic tradition, Sara! So glad you shared.
I am a resolution/goal setter too. We do it with our kids in January as well, but I really like the idea of keeping them in a special family journal. Thanks again for a good idea.
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It’s funny, because I wrote a post on my blog http://www.mysunshinelady.com about resolutions and why we so rarely keep them. I think that concrete goals are much more accessible than abstract ideas like “exercise more.” I like that list you made because it allows you to create a concrete goal that then allows you to focus more on the means of making it happen than having a goal in the first place.
I love this! I can’t wait for the kids to get home from school and fill their out. Thank you for starting us on a new tradition. (Yes, me, too — I’m a big list maker and prefer to use them as a general navigational map but, admire those who literally check very specific things of number by number) Happy New Year!
I knew you must be a list-making kindred spirit.
I love the “no threat” style of questions here! I do not ever do resolutions, because I think I’m afraid of failure…pressure! But then I get angry at myself because studies show goal-oriented people succeed more in life LOL!
This year I suggested at New Year’s breakfast I suggested that we give each other ones! I said “suggestions.” It was very eye-opening but mild and compassionate as we were all worded so well. My husband, (adult) son and I each gave each other one!!! I thought I knew for sure what was coming and they each said the same, surprising one to me…interesting! Who knew!
So far I think we’ve all been keeping them in back of the mind and doing pretty well.
Luck to all in accomplishing (or not as Gabby tells it)!!! ♥
PS – There is something terrific about checking off a to-do list! But I still recall joking my mother years ago that she had a list for a list for a list. Example…taped to the hanging kitchen lamp shade, “See: list on desk.” HAHA memories…I doubt she was that bad, but when I visit (often) I still see a little pad with a list of some sort every time!
I am like your mother. Lists and lists!
I can’t wait to share this with my daughters. I did a poor job of explaining goals and resolutions, but I think this will be the perfect way to guide them. Thank for sharing!
Love this idea! We did it with our kids last night after seeing it yesterday! So much fun! I loved hearing what they wanted to be better at and where they hoped to go!
An instant treasure for your family!
Thanks for the fantastic prompts! My husband is a determined “resolutioner” and it is not my favorite, so when it’s time to help 6 kids with goals I’m less than chipper. However your prompts are excellent and I can see them helping the kids really think. I also love the journal idea!
Thanks for this list! What a great idea. I love resolutions, too! My whole blog is based on making a resolution a month, then continuing that resolution as I make new ones (as inspired by Gretchen Rubin’s The Happiness Project). It has been a wonderful experience.
I’m such a Gretchen Rubin fan.
I like resolutions too, there’s nothing like a goal to keep you motivated. I write mine down in my diary (2013’s is red, leather-bound and small enough to carry in my handbag at all times) so I can remind myself what I want to achieve whenever I want.
I wrote about resolutions in my blog recently too, and it turned out one of my friends, who lives 2,000 miles away, shares 2 of them. That made me smile :)
Olive’s resolutions are indeed very cute, would your other children let you publish them? I wouldn’t have let my mum see them when I was little, ha!
How fun for you and your friend. Adorable!
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(Who is reading this from 2019! :-)
What great questions. My kids are going to enjoy answering these questions!
Thank you so much, Gabby, for this awesome idea (for the famous resolutions)! xoxo