I Wrote a Book! — Ejaculate Responsibly: A Whole New Way to Think About Abortion

I’m still reeling from Friday’s Supreme Court news. Ben Blair and I took the family to a protest in Paris this weekend — it was organized in response to Roe v Wade being overturned, to show solidarity to women in the U.S., and around the world. I know it’s just a small thing, but it felt good to take some action, use our voices, and gather with people who want to fight for what’s right. And today, I get to share something else I’ve been working on in my efforts to fight for what’s right:

We need to talk about abortion in a whole new way.

For decades, our discussions and debates about abortion have been exhausting and frustrating and useless — a loop of endless debates about “when life begins”. I wanted to do something about that. My new book, Ejaculate Responsibly, turns the usual unproductive abortion debate on its head. It will give you 28 easy-to-understand arguments that will move the discussion forward to a clearer — and fairer — place. The book is on sale October 18th and available for preorder now:

United States
Barnes & Noble
Bookshop — independent booksellers
TalkShopLive — signed copies

Amazon Canada

United Kingdom
Amazon UK


It’s hard to imagine a world that would consider criminalizing men’s actions in the way we freely legislate women’s bodies. And yet the cause of almost all abortions is an unwanted pregnancy. And men cause literally all unwanted pregnancies.

In this book, I shift the conversation from stopping abortion to preventing unwanted pregnancies, and I focus on the role men play in causing those unwanted pregnancies. This shift gets us out of the destructive cycle that’s centered on legislating women’s bodies, and delivers a healthier and doable path out of the abortion impasse.

I wrote this book to help readers clarify their thinking. It’s filled with information, stories, and new ways to approach this topic, that can have real-life impact and get us out of the usual dead-end cycles.

My hope is that this book will be read and discussed in health classes, in college lectures, in bookclubs, in families, and among friends. I hope it will be used to hold politicians accountable for what they say and do.

I worked hard to make the book approachable, and really enjoyable to read. And I worked with my publisher to keep the price low, so that it’s as accessible as possible.

If you’d like to support the book, pre-ordering a copy would be amazing (or maybe several copies if you’d like to share them — or even give one to your senators!). Helping to spread the word about the book, or supporting its message in any way you can, is also a huge help.

You can learn more at bit.ly/Ejaculate-Responsibly.

P.S. — I’ll be putting together a Book Launch Group later this week. And I’d love to have you involved. If you think you might be interested, watch for a blog post and newsletter with more info.

5 thoughts on “I Wrote a Book! — Ejaculate Responsibly: A Whole New Way to Think About Abortion”

  1. Congratulations – I hope your message on this topic spreads far and wide. Thank you for all you do to try to make the world a better place in these really hard times.

    I’m in Canada, and unfortunately for us, we too can be susceptible to the worst of the toxicity south of our border.

    Ending on a better note, your book is also available for pre-order here at Indigo, which is an independent Canadian-owned chain, for those who maybe aren’t big fans of that other online seller.

  2. Bravo! It’s time for men to take control of their fertility. I often think, if you were to run for office how successful you’d be! However, I would understand if you never wanted to return to the US.

  3. I’ve been trying to get essentially this message in letters to editors of magazines and newspapers, with very little success. Way to go! I have ordered the book. I’m an old guy who had a vasectomy back in 1977 when they were fairly new and somewhat popular for a while. One suggestion I have made is for all guys past puberty to have their DNA registered, on file, so that the law and the guy would know who caused a problem pregnancy. That might curtail unprotected sex, and the pregnant woman or teen or pre-teen wouldn’t face the difficult situation of fearing to name the guy to authorities.

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