My latest newsletter is out and the subject is wedding rings. I tell the story of how I got my wedding rings, and why I almost never wear them. The essay has received so many amazing responses — via comments, emails, and Instagram DMs. I’ve shared a bunch of the responses in my Instagram Stories (I saved them as a highlight if you’d like to see).
Here’s an excerpt of the newsletter:
I didn’t start out married life planning not to wear my wedding rings. At the time, I was quite young and hadn’t formed any official thoughts about wedding rings, though even then, wedding ring commercials and people who showed off their engagement rings made me uneasy. I didn’t like that couples felt pressure to buy a big diamond even if they couldn’t afford it; that the size of the ring was somehow supposed to prove the amount of love.
Some of my uneasiness was just aesthetics. I wasn’t into the look of 1990s diamond engagement rings at all, so the idea that someone would go into debt for a ring I thought was unappealing was hard for my brain to comprehend. Related to that, I couldn’t imagine liking a piece of jewelry so much that I would want to wear it every day for my whole life — and the idea of someone else picking out that piece of jewelry for me (I don’t even get to choose it???), was about as stressful a thought I could have come up with at the time.
Back then, even with the uneasiness, I assumed I would wear a wedding ring when I was married. But it turns out I don’t.
Click here to keep reading the essay (it’s free to read!).