Remember the sex ed discussion we had awhile back? The post was titled Advice About Sex for a College-Bound Girl. I really appreciated your comments on that post, and I read something yesterday that made me think we need a discussion round two. A Facebook friend named Twila, shared a link about Cliteracy. It’s a project site that is hosted on the Huffington Post, but is it’s own mini-site within their site. (It will make more sense when you click through.)
Before I visited the Cliteracy project, I assumed I had a pretty decent understanding of the clitoris. But it turns out I knew very little, and what I thought I knew was mostly wrong. Maybe worse than my ignorance, is that when I clicked over to the site and saw what it was about, I definitely felt kind of squeamish — like that no-thanks-I-don’t-really-want-to-know-feeling. Which is definitely not a healthy or smart attitude to take.
If you’re feeling the same way, I hope you’ll stick with me on this post, because understanding the clitoris is not just about orgasms. Our societal lack of knowledge about women’s sexuality and women’s bodies is super harmful. It affects healthcare and medicine, relationships and marriage. It ties into the whole consent discussion, it ties into the female pain discussion, and informs (or dis-informs) our entire view of what healthy sex looks like.
Some of the things I learned:
The medical community didn’t have a true understanding of what the full clitoris looked like until 1998. That’s not a typo, people. 1 9 9 8 ! That’s only 20 years ago. The medical community and our entire population should be horribly ashamed of that fact. Women’s pleasure is held in so little esteem, that we didn’t bother to even map the clitoris until 1998. List all that we accomplished before 1998, and then consider where “understanding women’s bodies” ranks on that list. Depressing.
The clitoris is about the same size as a penis. But, it has twice as many nerve endings. Again, not a typo. The little nub that we think of as the clitoris, is just a tiny bit of the whole organ. It’s mostly internal, it’s mostly made of erectile tissue (the whole thing, not just that tip), and again, has twice as many nerve endings as a penis.
The clitoris is the only organ in the human body that is only for pleasure. It is not a reproductive organ, it’s a sexual organ.
Freud was super wrong about the clitoris. He was super wrong about vaginal orgasms too. Unfortunately, everything he taught about the female orgasm is still pretty widely accepted. Boy oh boy he did a ton of harm.
I was impressed with the project site, and I hope you take some time to explore it. Some of the highlights:
In the Intro Section, there’s a video, and at about 1:50, a man named Ian Kerner, who is a sex therapist and author of She Comes First, talks about how bizarre it is that we assume women don’t really need to have an orgasm during sex, and how strange it is that we think male orgasms are more important.
His observations really resonated with me, because I have never understood that thinking. In my own life, I have no interest in sex without an orgasm, and never have had interest in sex without an orgasm. It’s a rare occurrence for me, and when it happens it basically does the opposite of what sex usually does. Instead of leaving me on a happy endorphin high, I’m left grumpy and feeling like I just loaned out my body. (Sorry if that’s TMI.) That said, I know from earlier discussions, that other women totally disagree with my take and have been able to find joy in sex whether or not they have an orgasm.
In the History Section, I was surprised to learn that the clitoris was erased from diagrams in Grey’s Anatomy in 1947. But my favorite part of the history section was definitely the timeline of scientific records or mentions of the clitoris. For sure take a moment to read about Princess Marie Bonaparte and what she discovered. And another bit of new knowledge for me: In 2014, “A controversial study published by Italian research team Puppo+Puppo in The Journal Of Clinical Anatomy asserts that both the vaginal orgasm and the G-spot are, in fact, myths.”
Controversial seems like the right word. Though my own experience matches up with the study, I’ve met plenty of people that would say it’s bunk.
In the Anatomy Section, there’s a helpful video at the bottom that shows how the full clitoris fits into and around other female genitalia. It also talks about Helen O’Connell who is the woman who finally mapped the full clitoris in 1998:
“Helen O’Connell, an Australian urologist, took note of the many machines and mechanisms hooked up to men during medical procedures like prostate surgery — devices meant to keep surgeons as far away from nerve endings in the male sexual anatomy as possible.
She wondered why there was no equivalent to help protect the female sexual anatomy during surgery. Without these precautions, how could doctors know they weren’t cutting into clitoral nerves during routine procedures like hysterectomies?”
Those paragraphs left me stunned. Because the answer to her question is of course: they didn’t know, and no doubt countless women have had their sexual pleasure diminished or destroyed because we were just blindly cutting (and in many cases are blindly cutting still!) with no real sense of the size or shape or position of the full clitoris. And then imagine how many relationships have been damaged or destroyed because of our ignorance, and lack of interest, in knowing more about women’s bodies.
In the Education Section, it helps explain why we still seem to have so much misinformation about the clitoris.
In the Sex Today Section, I learned that “just eight percent of women can reliably orgasm” from vaginal penetration alone. That’s right, just 8%. Which is basically like someone yelling at you: Your vagina is not your pleasure organ.
In the Sex Today section they also tackle the longstanding myth that women simply aren’t as sexual as men, or that women aren’t as hardwired for pleasure. As it turns out, “Women who are in same-sex relationships have similar orgasm counts to men and achieve climax in the same amount of time as their hetero male counterparts. The same is true when women pleasure themselves. Women’s bodies are not the problem. The problem is that most of us don’t have a full understanding of how they work.”
Those facts seem really, really important to this discussion. Basically, if you’re not having orgasms as quickly or as easily as your male partner, then it might be time for you (and your partner) to get to know your body better.
The most hopeful thing I learned? In 2009, Pierre Foldes invented the first successful female genital mutilation reversal surgery. “He removes scar tissue from the vulva and exposes some of the internal clitoris, returning sexual sensation to many of his patients.”
The history of female genital mutilation is discouraging and disheartening. Learning that some women have experienced a successful reversal of the procedure made me super happy.
If you’ve stuck with me through the whole post, I’m sending you a virtual high five, because I know that many of us weren’t taught to be comfortable having open conversations about the clitoris; about our clitoris.
And to tie this back to how I started. If I were going to add anything to the Advice About Sex for a College-Bound Girl post, it would be to get to know her body better. Her reproductive organs, and her clitoris. And that her sexual pleasure is equally important to anyone she’s having sex with.
I also want to reiterate, knowledge about the clitoris ties in really closely to the male pleasure and female pain discussion we were having.
What’s your take? I’d love to hear. I’m so curious, were you as il-cliterate as I was? Were any of these tidbits, facts or stats news to you? Or are you already a clit pro? Anyone ready to order a clitoris necklace?
50 thoughts on “That Feeling When You Thought You Knew What a Clitoris Was”
I am constantly impressed by your curiosity and candor. Thank you for that.
I knew some of that stuff but I will definitely go check the Cliteracy microsite. Thank you so much for sharing.
I am impressed and so glad that you chose to use your platform to tal about this kind of subjects, which for me are important and so underreprensented.
I love this post, and these are the posts that really resonate with me – not the subject matter, necessarily (although it also does) but just that you’re willing to have these amazing, open conversations about topics that are so, so important. And you aren’t embarrassed to put it out there. Or you are, but you’re consciously deciding to do it anyway. And you aren’t a 20-something, but a mom of 6, kids who I would imagine also read your blog and can see that their mom is a real, live woman!
I just feel like, anyone who ever thought they knew what a “typical, practicing, Mormon” family was like due to a stereotype – think again. I’m not even Mormon, but I guess to me it’s just a fantastic, easily accessible example to people that it’s so VERY important to look beneath the surface of the typical picture you get when you hear someone’s labels. I’m not sure if I’m explaining myself quite right, but the point is – You rock!
Hahaha! I didn’t think really even think of my Mormonness in relation to this topic, but I can see how that might seem like a strange contrast.
And yes, I did consider my kids, who often do read my blog, but I figured they’d skip the post if they read the title and didn’t want to risk TMI.
Do you remember when the Dick in a Box skit came out from SNL? I distinctly remember my older brother being hesitant to show it to me, because he still thought of me as his innocent young very-Mormon sister. But by that time I had already had 5 babies! Hah! So clearly, sex was a big part of my life. His reaction made me laugh then, and I’m guessing this kind of post still stresses him out 10 years later.
I guess that’s the point – what do I know about being Mormon?? Clearly, very little :) So posts like this are fantastic for breaking down stereotypes, probably BECAUSE you aren’t even thinking about it when you’re writing it.
It’s funny you mention siblings, because although I’m as open as can be about sex and dirty jokes, etc. etc. with friends, I am hesitant to share anything like Dick in a Box or the like with my younger sibs. But I notice my sister in particular isn’t remotely embarrassed to talk about stuff like that with me. Is it a younger sib thing? Who knows!
And I HATE when my husbands parents joke around with him about sex. I just want to curl up and die. So funny!!!
I am so glad you can see past the Mormon label. So many people want to take a group and assume all people are just the same. For a long time I have struggled to find my place as a Mormon return missionary that has really liberal views. I know that I don’t represent all or at least that is how I have always felt. It is so good for Gabrielle to share on her website her personal experiences, because then it helps others (like me) to realize I am not alone in so much of my thinking. And it opens all of our minds to the fact that there is so much more to a persons character that shapes who they are than a label.
I am learning so much about being a women in the last year as we have opened up dialogue about women, their rights, their pleasures, and such. I mean, I am a 38 women and I never realized how much I have been limited by society. I am excited about the future for my own daughter and how I can enlightened and prepare her to be a strong women in the world.
“And it opens all of our minds to the fact that there is so much more to a persons character that shapes who they are than a label.”
THIS is exactly what I’m talking about. And after a really, really hard year of not wanting to take the time to see beyond labels because I was just SO.ANGRY. (Trump voters, Republicans, MEN, etc.) it’s a fantastic reminder.
Bravo for your courage in writing about difficult topics. I agree that hearing this information from a married Mormon mother of 6 makes the message even more powerful.
I read all the way though and I’m saving the link for later. Maybe I’ll read it to my husband :)
Personally, I find that a lot of women complain about their husbands and swatting them away, or faking headaches to get out of sex, and that’s not me. It is hard to relate to them because I really enjoy sex, and lots of it. I’m more like you: an orgasm is always part of sex.
Also, I’m reading Girls and Sex right now and I’m loving it, but parts of it stun me. It has been a real eye-opener. Thanks for using your platform for good.
I hear you. That seems to be the cultural belief — that women try to avoid sex, but that hasn’t been my experience. It’s for sure one of my favorite things.
I just read through everything on the site and was also suprised at what I didn’t know (mostly that I didn’t know the anatomy of the clitoris really at all). Have you ever read “Bonk” by Mary Roach? She is a fantastic and entertaining science writer. I learned about Princess Marie Bonaparte and her ruler from that book.
I’m so glad that you are using your voice for this. I am always sad that it is not socially acceptable to talk about this. So many more women could be having great sex!
On another note, over the last few years I have found that I am often really, really angry at the patriarchy that we live in. And often I’m angry at God also because hey, he’s male and he seems to allow women to be raped and abused all over the world for the entire history of mankind. Strangely enough, the fact that I have about 5x the number of orgasms as my husband sometimes makes me think that maybe God doesn’t hate women after all. (Also, my husband is super generous and it has always been really important to him that we figure out how my body works and that I enjoy sex).
Sorry about the rambling… Thanks again for your voice.
Bonk sounds super interesting. Thanks for the recommendation. And I love your thoughts on God.
The “maleness” of God is so troubling. Any attempt to counter that idea or “neutralize” the gender of God just seems to get lumped into a narrative of culture wars or pagan traditions to the ears of most Christians I know (Mother Goddess, etc.). Every human has been made in the image of God. What will it take for us to realize how impactful it is to imbue the Creator with unequivocal maleness?
I like this poem by Li-Young Lee, “Living with Her.” He prefaced the poem with, “The God term asserts itself [to him] as a female pronoun. . . I don’t know why the God presence has asserted itself often as a female pronoun, as a female presence . . . ” He read the poem with first the female pronouns, as he had originally written it, and then with male pronouns. I prefer the female version. It feels better to me.
She opens her eyes
and I see.
She counts the birds and I hear
the names of the months and days.
A girl, one of her names
is Change. And my childhood
lasted all of an evening.
Called light, she breathes, my living share
of every moment emerging.
Called life, she is a pomegranate
pecked clean by birds to entirely
become a part of their flying.
Do you love me? she asks.
I love you,
she answers, and the world keeps beginning.
As a lesbian in a monogamous marriage with a woman, I have a lot of knowledge and experience of the clitoris. It’s such a lovely place to explore! I did know all of the facts you talked about in the post, but I am interested to look into the website more, and share with my possibly-less-cliterate friends and family on Facebook! Thanks, once again, for sharing such great resources, Gabrielle!
Thank you (again) for using your platform for frank, open, honest discussions of important, sometimes uncomfortable subjects. You’re the best!
I knew some of the facts you shared but not all. I’m going to send this post to my teenage daughter so she can visit the site herself (if she doesn’t already know about it – she’s actually so great about self-educating). I’ve tried in my conversations with her about sex to reiterate that it’s important that she and her partner are enjoying themselves and having orgasms. I hope that’s sticking with her.
But can we not make this another “I didn’t know any of this and it’s my religion’s fault” instead of the more factual “I didn’t know any of this and it’s my parent’s fault?”
Because guess what? I’m LDS. And I already knew most of the facts listed in this post. My LDS parents (both of them) taught me about sex from a young age (no shame involved), and I took classes in high school and at CSULB to learn more (no shame involved). My wedding night and subsequent sex life have all been great (no shame involved).
Enough with putting the blame of your ignorance on the Church instead of on your parents and the place where you received your secular education.
Anne, you’re right. It shouldn’t be a church’s responsibility to teach about female pleasure. That’s kind of creepy anyway (I have a firm belief that churches should stay the hell out of people’s sex lives). My parents talked about sex with us quite often, but never about pleasure. I didn’t have my first orgasm until five years into my marriage because I had no idea how women achieve orgasm until I researched it myself. Even then, I felt a little bit of shame googling it. I feel so sad for all the women out there who’ve never had an orgasm simply because they don’t know how. All the goodness they’ve been missing out on! They’ve never even experienced the best feeling in the entire world!
I never really enjoyed sex until I started having orgasms. It felt good before that, but I was always left feeling a little disappointed and didn’t really understand why. After I had my first orgasm, I was like, wow! This is why people enjoy sex…I totally get it now! Thank you for writing about this, Gabby. I really, really hope women don’t skip the read just because of the touchy (haha) subject.
Our Unitarian Universalist church teaches a comprehensive sexual education, personal wholeness and relationship health class called OWLS. Our Whole Life Sexuality. We share the curriculum with the United Church of Christ (UCC). It is one of the greatest gifts I will ever give my children. It is about families, plumbing, body image, social media responsibility, abuse of power, personal fulfillment, pregnancy, joy, mechanics of sex, pleasure, love, sexual orientation and every other aspect of being a sexual being. I am so thankful my kids will learn from specially trained facilitators in a setting with their peers that fosters trust and respect. All under the umbrella of the values of our denomination. Just wanted to offer that some religious organizations are committed to doing it in a really positive way. Thanks for sharing your thoughts too. :)
I’ve heard really good things about this education program.
I guess I’m just kind of perplexed as to where this comment is coming from. No where in the post did Gabby blame religion or church for her incomplete knowledge about the clitoris. In fact, she lamented that society at large is way behind the times on understanding female pleasure. If (like me and Gabby) you grew up before 1998 when the entire anatomy of the clitoris was finally mapped, the knowledge simply wasn’t out there. It didn’t matter if you had the most sex-positive parents in the world–you’d still be getting incomplete information about the clitoris. This comment sounds really defensive and then accusatory at the end and doesn’t really respond to the post itself. The tone definitely doesn’t fit with the edifying, inclusive, nonjudgemental post Gabby wrote. Thanks, Gabby for tackling such an important topic in such a respectful and positive way!
Anne, who did they teach you? I want my 9yo son to be a man that, in the future, values women and does not only think about his own pleasure (sorry, I’m not a native speaker and can’t put it better) but how to do that?! I cringe at the thought.
I meant “What did they teach you”
Forget it, “HOW”. Sorry.
It’s difficult for me to put into words how much I love your curiosity and candor. Thank you for being so awesome.
BRAVO, Gabrielle!! This is why you have so many loyal readers.
Ok, it looks like I am the minority, but I thought this was common knowledge? I guess I lucked out in my anatomy & physiology classes, and all the reading I have done. Knowing about our amazing bodies has always been extremely important to me. Our bodies are a marvel.
This revelatory issue reminds me of how eye-opening it was for me to find out that I knew next to nothing about how to get pregnant beyond “insert tab A into slot B” when I was suffering from secondary infertility. I was infuriated to find that I had really only been educated about abstinence and STIs and knew generally about ovulation and menstruation, but when it came to actual particulars of optimum timing, etc. I was woefully uninformed. The medical community failed me even further; I was just pointed toward a mysterious “fertility monitor” and sent on my merry way. After reading a wonderful book called “Taking Charge of Your Fertility” by Toni Weschler, I found out all sorts of useful things about my anatomy that I had never heard of before (“stretchy” cervical fluid?? who knew?) that made it all make sense. How many girls think they have to start douching or mistakenly believe they have infections during a time of the month when they’re just more fertile? It’s unconscionable.
Thank you so much for writing about this publicly. I’ve suffered from vaginal pain and sexual dysfunction my entire life. It’s only now at 30 that things are starting to develop positively, and not because of the doctors I saw (dozens, most of whom were dismissive, even at Stanford Hospital!) but because of my own personal advocacy. It’s deeply frustrating and depressing, but through posts like your own I hope we can plant the little seeds to changing the way our culture thinks about women’s pleasure and sexual health. Bravo!
During my undergraduate studies I took an advanced anatomy class that incorporated embryology. There I learned how the clitoris originates from the same embryonic tissue as the corpus cavernosum and corpus spongiosum and that they function the same way as it pertains to orgasm. That was about 20 years ago! It wasn’t until I was married that I learned about male refractory periods and how women’s are much shorter (hello multiple orgasms!). Maybe gynecologists should start screening their patients for orgasm knowledge?
Also, in my experience, a man derives a lot of pleasure in female orgasm compared to just having an orgasm alone. Are there any men here than can corroborate?
I agree with your last statement. It’s my husbands #1 goal during sex because it brings him so much satisfaction knowing I’m satisfied.
My sole partner (male) of 15 years absolutely says his orgasm is much better and stronger when it’s in conjunction with my orgasm. We take the extra time to stimulate the clitoris externally, giving me my first orgasm; then during intercourse that follows, I have a second one with my partner. It’s awesome. ha!
Thanks for sharing this info, Gabby! Sending it to my sisters right now…
Again I must congratulate you on your ability to enlighten and share informative material and encourage thought provoking conversation. Thank you.
Another reason why I adore you Gabby! As a 60 year old that left this part of my life on the shelf of ‘broken’, it is refreshing to see it treated so naturally and with enthusiasm! Thank you!
I remember my TA for an anatomy class I took at BYU telling us that the clitoris was solely for pleasure and that she thought it was pretty awesome the female body was created that way. That was more than 20 years ago. It’s a comment that I think helped the way I think about sex as a woman, in a positive way, (even though at the time I was pretty young and felt a little embarrassed by the conversation!)
Thank you so much for these posts on women’s sexual pleasure and pain. These issues seem absolutely central to the #metoo movement. I’m hoping the medical establishment is the next target of this movement since there are so many things being done wrong and learned wrong by doctors who mostly mean well and probably believe they are doing things right. The “husband stitch”? The generally deplorable state of maternity, postpartum and newborn care in the US? Our maternal mortality rate is the worst in the developed world: https://www.npr.org/2017/05/12/528098789/u-s-has-the-worst-rate-of-maternal-deaths-in-the-developed-world.
And then we have studies and drug dosages based on men’s bodies, the historic lack of regard for even a basic understanding of women’s anatomy, racial and gender disparities in healthcare availability and outcomes, woefully inadequate sex ed, abortion stigma and access problems, and so many other outrageous things we’ve put up with for way too long!
Ok, I normally don’t comment like anywhere. But wow, this really shocked me. People only learned how the clit looked anatomically when I was already 8 and I had to get nearly 28 until I learned how it looked.
I find it so shocking and it enrages me nearly even more than the metoo debates that it took humanity so long to discover something so basic.
So glad you posted about this. Really instetesting to hear your honest reactions! I confess it took me a couple of days to go ahead and read it after it showed up in my blog feed. But I’m glad I did! My main feeling is such anger and frustration at this shoddy cultural treatment of women and our bodies. Yet another example of the devaluing of women. Sometimes I feel so mad about it it feels hard to breathe! And yet I also feel tongue tied about it – as if the burden of trying to reveal these mistreatment’s is too heavy to lift with words. I know that in my public school ed the focus was fully on preventing pregnancy and disease, and the slant was that girls better not “give in” to boys. We got a similar screed at church – boys probably can’t resist touching themselves but girls better not ever do it. I’m shocked thinking back that the was really the advice we were given!
Wow, some of these facts were totally new to me! Thanks for sharing and thanks for your honesty. My parents never really talked about sex when I was a child and teenager (although they were awesome), so I didn’t have an example of starting this conversation in an open and honest way with my own children. I do think, however, that I want to do things differently, so we started sex ed at quite an early age and I plan to continue it throughout their teenage years. Following the conversations on your blog is very, very helpful to me — so thank you!
I’ve been trying hard in recent years to be more comfortable with seeing my body and with talking about sexual parts in a more honest and natural way, especially with my kids (all 3 girls). I struggle to name those parts – vagina, clitoris – because of all the sexualization that our culture has placed on them, rather than just a normal part of our bodies. I keep doing it – and it has already paid off in having my daughters be unafraid to know and name and protect their bodies. But I realize how very little I knew – and my parents were probably more willing for us to know about puberty than most! – about my body and its functions.
I also struggle with how to talk about sex and relationships with my girls as they get older. When the world around them, including the ads and music, portray sex as something everyone does, and that we should have sex whenever we want, then how do I help them to understand the value of waiting until a monogamous (preferably married) relationship? And then, how do I talk about sexual pleasure as part of that?
I truly love how you write! I always feel as though you are talking in such a respectful and honest way…..Personal and friendly. This is a great topic and I’m excited to read the full website about the clitoris.
Just wanted to let you know how grateful I am to have found your blog, and how much I appreciate the frank discussions you’ve hosted here lately about female pain and sexuality. It’s giving me the bravery (and the words) to approach the topic with my girls. I want them to grow up feeling knowledgeable and empowered about their bodies.
This is so timely for me. Sex is a different experience for me because of an auto-immune disease I have, and I have been seeing a therapist because of it. Through this experience I have learned that some things that I thought were unique to me and my disease are NORMAL for every woman. It’s been freeing and mind-blowing to cross things off of the “ways I am different and broken” list. Such as: there are very few/no nerve endings in the vaginal canal itself, so not feeling much in that area from typical penetration is normal. How are we not taught these things???
Il-cliterate? That alone made the post worth reading. Bravo.
I knew many of these facts, but the clitoris not even being mapped until 1998? What? Remember how freaked out everyone was about Y2K and yet no one was screaming, HOLY HELL WE BETTER FIGURE OUT THE FEMALE ANATOMY BEFORE THE WORLD ENDS! I can’t wait to poke around (hehe) the site a little.
And one book I learned SO MUCH about in regards to female sexuality this year is Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski. A lot of the book talks about how we’ve long studied sex from a male perspective and thus missed so much when it comes to women’s bodies (of course). One example that has stayed with me (especially as it pertains to #metoo and sexual assault at large) is the idea of congruency and the fact that women’s bodies can often respond in a sexaul manner (becoming wet, ect) even when mentally they are not turned on in the least and in fact DON’T even like what may be happening to their bodies. But since men’s bodies generally are NOT capable of this, of course this has led to many, many, many misconsceptions about her “wanting it” etc. (I think I remembered that all correctly.) You can see how understanding this huge sexual difference between men and women is extremely important in understanding consent. If you haven’t read it you should put it on the list.
You would probably enjoy listening to the Science versus podcast episode “science vs. The g spot”. She interviews the woman who “discovered” the gspot, but who now says they were wrong about it.
I learned the majority of this info from attending a Pure Romance toy party. Those girls know their stuff and are full of information. Is that weird?
I knew that the clitoris was a larger organ that extended further into my body, but until i spent some time on Clitoris I didn’t know the exact shape of it. That alone is incredibly empowering. Now I know what it looks like and can visualize what is happening to my body.
I’ve needed to overcome some sexual discomfort in marriage from things that happened in my childhood and having more knowledge about my own pleasure has been crucial for this kind of healing.
I’m heartened by these discussions and excited that even as a mom and a grown woman I can learn and grow as a human being.
I think one of the most important things I can teach my daughter is that her clitoris is there solely for her pleasure and God intended it that way. We get lots of unintended and varying messages about our bodies from church culture, society, movies, etc. but if you have the correct knowledge and believe that your body specifically designed to receive pleasure it can change your thought process and help deflect the negative messages before they take hold.
Knowledge is power.
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Great share! Finally we are getting to see the importance of pleasure for females as well. We are on the right path, but there is still so much knowledge that needs to be shared regarding this. Keep up the good work :)!