Mom and Daughter Trip to The Big Island of Hawaii

Mom and Daughter Trip to The Big Island of Hawaii featured by popular lifestyle blogger, Design Mom

Mom and Daughter Trip to The Big Island of Hawaii featured by popular lifestyle blogger, Design Mom

Last week, my daughter Betty and I took a mom and daughter trip to the Big Island of Hawaii to celebrate her 12th birthday. A trip with one child and one parent is our 12th birthday tradition. It wasn’t a long trip — we were there for 4 days. But we sure had a fabulous time. Would you like to see a report about our stay?

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Day One Mom and Daughter Trip — Sunday

The flight was easy because we’re on the west coast, and there are lots of non-stop options. I subscribe to the newsletters of the airlines that fly out of Oakland airport, and when Alaska Airlines ran a flash sale for $150 tix to Hawaii ($300 round trip), I grabbed two.

We flew to Kona airport, which is the airport on the west coast of the Big Island. It’s a small, quaint, indoor/outdoor airport. The west coast has most of the big resorts and hotels, and most options are within about 20-30 minutes of the airport.

We picked up a fresh flower lei for Betty at an airport stand as soon as we landed. Gosh, they smell so good. I hadn’t been to Hawaii since I was Betty’s age, but the scent of the lei brought back a rush of memories.

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We were told Uber was pretty new to the Big Island, so we took a taxi to our hotel. When we were booking the hotel, we looked for an option that had direct beach access and room service — those were the top 2 things on Betty’s hotel wishlist. : ) We found a good rate at the Marriott Waikoloa.

When we checked in, they put a flower in Betty’s hair, put a shell lei on her shoulders, and gave her a box of chocolate-covered macadamia nuts. At that point, Betty could tell this was going to be her favorite vacation ever.

Our flight was a morning flight, and with the time change, we arrived at the hotel around 10:30 in the morning. We highly recommend an early flight because you have the whole day ahead of you when you arrive. We thought they might need to hold our bags until afternoon check-in, but luckily they had a room ready, so we got settled in right away.

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We unpacked and put on swim suits. Then we stopped at the concierge desk and booked two spots to dive with manta rays that night. We attempted to rent a car (there was an Enterprise desk in the hotel lobby), but they were out of cars for the day. So we booked one to pick up the next day instead.

Then we started exploring the hotel grounds. First stop: the hotel beach.

It’s gorgeous and sandy with warm, clear water. There were a couple of beach shacks where we could rent snorkel gear or grab a snack.

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After the beach, we tried the swimming pools — there were three! And one had a water slide. We were also super hungry at this point, so we ordered poolside food and fancy drinks.

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After the pool, we visited the shops across the street from the hotel — we were hoping to find some shave ice. Turns out the shave ice truck doesn’t come by there till Wednesday, but that wasn’t a problem. We checked out the shops anyway. One was a small grocery store, and we bought yogurt for breakfast to keep in our hotel room mini fridge.

Next it was time to head to the manta ray dive. I decided to try Uber, and it was no problem at all.

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We checked in and boarded our boat. It heads out near sunset, and the ride is gorgeous.

Here’s how it works. You can book tickets with 15 or so different companies. Each evening they all head out to two main manta ray feeding grounds. When your boat arrives, you’ll see 8-10 other boats too, and they all work together to anchor each other.

Each boat will put a sort of raft in the water (or two rafts if they have a big crowd). The raft is basically a surf board with a pvc-pipe rack around it. There are three big holes cut into the surfboard, and big lights are inserted into each hole. The lights shine straight down into the water.

Everyone who booked a ticket puts on a mask and goggles and a wetsuit top, and then gets in the water and holds on to the raft. Once the sun goes down, the raft lights turn on, and you have to float superman-style, holding onto the raft, with your masked face in the water.

The lights bring up the plankton, who react to the brightness like it’s sunshine, and the giant manta rays come and eat the plankton.

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But on the night we went. No mantas came at all! It was a bust!

Apparently, no-shows are pretty rare. They told us that in 2017, there were only 12 nights that manta rays didn’t make an appearance. Earlier that evening, when we first got in the water, the manta ray dive Guide had helped Betty swim near two dolphins, so she felt like it was an awesome experience even without seeing the manta rays. But I was pretty bummed, because everyone we had talked to said the manta rays were the highlight of their trip. There were no refunds, but the company, Outdoor Excursions, offered another chance to go at no charge any night we were available.

After the dive, we got an uber home, and ordered room service for a late night dinner. We were exhausted!

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Day Two Mom and Daughter Trip — Monday

We slept in the next morning and decided to hang around at the hotel until our car rental was ready at noon.

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We explored more of the grounds, and practiced snorkeling at the beach.

The manta ray dive was Betty’s first ever snorkeling experience, so she was excited to try it again and see if there were any fish in the water near our hotel.

There weren’t many (and we found awesome snorkeling later), but she had a ton of fun searching for seashells, and she got much more confident with her snorkel gear.

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At noon, we picked up our rental car, and decided to head out on an adventure right away. We were trying to decide between driving to the southern most point of the island (where we heard you could cliff dive), or driving to Volcanoes National Park. We ultimately decided to go to the National Park.

This meant a drive straight across the island to a town called Hilo. The drive was gorgeous! We went from lava fields to thick jungle, and the road takes you between the two big mountains. I was also fascinated to see how fast the weather changed — the west coast was sunny and hot, but 20 minutes away, it was all heavy rain and much cooler temperatures.

We stopped in Hilo for food, and then went directly to the National Park. Because of the volcanic activity happening, a good portion of the park was closed, but we could still see the giant crater and the steam vents, and we learned a ton at the Welcome Center.

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Usually the lava level in the crater is 90 feet down — and you can see it glow when it’s dark. But the current level was 800 feet down! All the lava had been pulled to a residential neighborhood, where fissures were opening up in the earth and lava was pouring out. There were 14 fissures when we were there, and at last count there were 21.

We were told the lava wasn’t the dangerous part, but that the fumes coming from the fissures could be poisonous.

We had a lot of questions from friends and family at home who were watching the news stories about the lava flows and were worried about us. But luckily, we were never at risk. It was actually only a small part of the island that was affected. We were told the most helpful thing to do was to avoid that neighborhood, and to keep spending our tourist dollars on the Big Island. : ) 

[ As I’m typing this, news just broke that Kilauea erupted! ]

We intended to do a hike while we were at the National Park, but it turned out to be too cold and rainy. No worries. We checked the time, and realized we could head back right away and go to a luau that night.

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We drove straight to the Mauna Lani shopping center where they offer free cultural dance performances a few nights each week. But we had the time wrong and only saw the last 20 minutes of the show. While we were there, we picked up snorkel gear and fruit and snacks for the next day, then we went to our hotel, which was hosting a luau on the grounds that night. We were too late for the feast, but just in time to see the full hour of performances.

It was too dark to get good photos, but it was really fun to watch. Betty said her favorite part was the fire throwers.

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Day Three Mom and Daughter Trip — Tuesday

On Tuesday, we woke up early and drove directly to Hapuna Beach State Park, which was about a 10 minute drive north of our hotel. Our snacks and snorkel gear were already in the car. : ) We got there at around 7:00 in the morning and it was stunning, and practically empty.

Hapuna is the sort of white sandy beach, with gentle waves and warm water, that you picture when you think of Hawaii. On either end of the beach, there are lots of rocks and reefs. We went to the north end and concentrated our snorkeling time there. There were tons of fish! And Betty swam with a sea turtle too!

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We buried each other in the sand, swam and played in the waves, and snorkeled our hearts out. We probably could have stayed all day, but after a few hours, we felt like exploring more of the island.

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We drove north to the King Kamehameha Statue, with the intention of driving further and finding a waterfall hike. But it was raining pretty heavily and it turns out landslides had closed the road.

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Instead, we drove back down the western coast and looked for 49 Black Sand Beach, which we could see on the map but didn’t know anything about.

We followed the directions and it took us to a gated community. I stopped at the parking gate and asked, “We must be in the wrong place, but it says there’s a black sand beach on this road?”

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The gatekeeper said, “Yes, this is the way. Here’s a parking pass.”

We drove through the neighborhood, following his directions, and found a little parking lot — big enough for maybe 20 cars — and a path to the beach.

It was like a public beach on a private property. It felt like a secret!

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The sand was truly black, and the snorkeling was the best we’d had so far. Once you got in the water, it was all rocks and reef, and the fish were just right there in front of you.

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It looks so windy in this photo, but it wasn’t bad. It turned out to be a lovely beach and would have been a fun place to spend a whole day. If you visit, be sure to bring water shoes. They helped a ton!

After we left, we had an open afternoon in front of us, and decided to drive up to the Visitor Center on Mauna Kea mountain. We knew we needed four wheel drive to get to the top of the 14,000 foot peak, and had tried to book spaces on a tour there, but we were told Betty needed to be at least 16 years old. We were secretly hoping that once we got to the Visitor Center, we would be able to arrange a ride anyway — or at least see some great views from there.

The drive was stunning, but otherwise this adventure turned out to be a bit of a bummer. The clouds were super thick at the visitor center and we couldn’t see a thing. Hah! And no, it wasn’t possible to arrange rides from the Visitor Center, though the Ranger suggested we might be able to hitch a ride with other visitors who had Jeeps or SUVs and space in their car. I asked a couple of people if they’d be open to letting us ride with them, but I could see the idea made them uncomfortable, so I stopped asking and we decided to head back down.

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From there, we drove to Kona. Kona is a seaside town that acts as a hub for tourists. You can find rentals and tickets and tours and souvenir shops and local cuisine and anything else you might need. We arrived with a couple hours to explore and had a wonderful time.

We walked along the harbor, stopped for food at a seaside restaurant (I had cabbage and pork, Betty had Hawaiian pizza). There were adorable geckos hanging out on our dining table!

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After dinner we stopped for our first shave ice.

For our evening adventure, we considered driving back up to the Mauna Kea Visitor Center, because on Tuesday nights, they pull out telescopes from 7:00 to 10:00, and bring out experts on the stars. Lots of people rave about it. But we checked the forecast when we were up there earlier, and it looked like they were going to have to cancel because of clouds.

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So instead, we decided to attempt the manta ray dive again.

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HOLY COW IT WAS AMAZING.

It was exactly the experience I described before, but this time, when the lights went on, massive manta rays appeared. They would come right up to the raft and do slow, graceful back flips, like an inch from your face. When I say massive, I mean it. They were at least 11 feet across, maybe bigger.

I could hear Betty scream with delight under the water.

We were SO GLAD we gave it a second try. It was an unforgettable experience for sure. It was easy to see why people loved it so much.

Oh. I forgot to mention: Earlier that evening, as our boat left the harbor, we were suddenly surrounded by a pod of 50+ dolphins. They were diving and jumping and seemingly having a terrific time playing with each other. I’ve never seen anything like it. What an experience!

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We drove home and thought we would go straight to bed. But we were kind of wired from the diving. So we ordered room service again — we called it late night breakfast-in-bed since Betty’s birthday was the next day. (Breakfast in bed is another one of our birthday traditions, but we wanted to head out in the morning before breakfast — so a late night version was a good substitute.)

Day Four Mom and Daughter Trip — Wednesday

Our flight home was Wednesday afternoon at 3:00. And we wanted to have a few more adventures before we left Paradise. We woke up around 8:00 in the morning and drove straight to Two Step, which was about an hour and half south of our hotel.

We highly recommend snorkeling there. It was our favorite snorkeling spot by far — you could see the fish even before you got in the water.

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It’s called Two Step because the volcanic rocks form two steps going down into the water. It’s not a sandy spot — you go straight from rocks into the water, and then back out onto the rocks when you’re done. And you should only go there if you’re a strong swimmer, because there’s nowhere to touch down and rest once you’re in the water.

But boy oh boy you can see a ton of amazing sea life, and you’ll likely get to swim with some sea turtles too.

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When we were tired of snorkeling, we got out on the rocks and watched the creatures who were hanging out in the tide pools — crabs and turtles and sea urchins and all sorts of things.

It gets busy at Two Step. By the time we left, it was fairly packed. Arriving in the 7:00 or 8:00 range is a good idea.

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Next to Two Step is a historical park. We checked it out for a bit, and found a flower for Betty’s hair:

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But we were too hungry to stay long, so we decided to venture back toward the hotel.

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On the way, we stopped at famous diner called Coffee Shack. It hangs over a cliff and has amazing views from the dining tables.

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We ate a big breakfast, and ordered extra eggs on the side. We took some of their legendary banana bread with us for the drive.

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We knew there was a lava tube off the highway on the road back, so we pulled over to see it — even though we only had a few minutes. There are a few different lava tubes around the island. There’s a massive one at the National Park (it was closed when we were there), and I hear there are some near Hilo too. I’m still a little fuzzy on how they’re made. From what I understand, a column of lava shoots underground and creates a tunnel or tube. They’re really cool! If we ever get to go back, I hope we’ll get to hike in one.

Our car was due back at the rental desk at Noon. We got back just in time to return it, and then check out of the hotel. We left our bags with the bellhop, but we still had a couple of hours till we needed to go to the airport. So we walked across the street to do a little shopping and buy souvenirs for the rest of the family.

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Happily, the shave ice truck was at the shopping center. I ordered Hula Moon. Betty ordered Rainbow Cream. We both chose vanilla ice cream at the bottom.

Then, we hit the hotel pool one more time, changed our clothes in the hotel bathroom, and grabbed an uber to the airport.

Gosh it was a terrific mom and daughter trip. The minute we got on the airplane, we were plotting how we could go back with the whole family. That’s really the only tricky part of these one-parent-one-kid trips — when you see cool things, you want to share them with the whole family!

One other thought: the Big Island is a really adventurous place. Sure someone could sit poolside at the hotel and have a perfectly lovely time, but if you’re in the mood, there’s so much to see and do. And a lot of it is quite high-adventure — like manta ray dives, and snow-capped 14,000 ft mountains, and hiking in lava tubes, and snorkeling all over the place, and cliff diving, and zip-lining, and active lava flows. So when you’re packing, bring your bikini and flip flops, but also bring hiking shoes and a parka. It goes from really hot to really cold very quickly. We were grateful for our sweatshirts! And you may want to rent a 4-wheel drive vehicle if one’s available.

How about you? Would you like an adventurous Hawaii trip? Or when you think of Hawaii, do you picture mostly reading on the beach?

P.S. — If I was packing again, I would also do a little research on snorkel gear and bring our own. I can’t believe how much we used it!

40 thoughts on “Mom and Daughter Trip to The Big Island of Hawaii”

  1. Wow, it sounds like an awesome trip! I’m so glad you went to Hapuna, I just love it there! Last time we went to Hapuna Beacg we got a huge Pizza from Costco (near Kona) and ate it on the beach, so fun!

      1. I enjoyed reading about your wonderful trip. My brother lives. In. Hilo., When I return to visit him,. I will request a visit to some of the places you visited. Thanks again for sharing your vacation.

  2. The pure joy on Betty’s face and her exuberance and enthusiasm in your instastories was so touching. I could see how much she loved and truly appreciated everything. What a wonderful experience for the two of you, making lifelong memories. My daughter and I traveled a great deal when she lived in Paris for 6 years and those memories will stay with us forever. Mothers and daughters!

  3. I am glad to hear you saw manta rays.

    When we went tried to dive with the manta rays this time last year and they were no-shows two nights in a row. It was such a bummer. My dad is convinced it is a scam.

    Sounds like you had a great vacation.

    1. Two nights in a row? Dang! I can totally imagine how frustrating that would be. I was so worried the same thing would happen to us — and I hated the idea of wasting another night when our trip was so short.

  4. What a great trip! And what a deal on the airline tickets! WOW!

    Isn’t it kinda odd to have been at Volcano NP recently and then having Kilauea erupt today?? I find all the activity there so interesting!

    1. We’ve been watching the volcano coverage. I find it so fascinating!

      And I’ve been seeing similar deals on tickets lately, again from Alaska. Maybe you can find a deal too!

  5. Wow what a wonderful trip. Thank you for sharing. You got to do so much and arrived at the sweet spot, right before the volcano got more active. I was so insanely excited about the mantas and the massive dolphin pod. I want to do that so badly now!!! Adding that to the bucket list. Did you feel any earthquakes?

  6. Oh gosh, what a wonderful experience! I really love how you describe this adventure in a short, compact and coherent way but still highlight so much of the feelings and goodness. I aspire to write travel stories like you!

    Love this tradition of your family and so sweet to see the 2 of you spending the time together. And happy birthday Betty!

  7. We went to the Big Island for our Honeymoon. It’s such a wonderful island, so much to see and do. One day, we decided to drive around the whole island. It was so interesting to see how the landscape would change every few miles.
    I’m glad you guys had a wonderful trip!

  8. I love love love that you do this tradition and can’t wait to do it with our four kids. What a delight! I went to Hawaii when I was 12 and it was magical. I even planned on marrying a Polynesian so I could live there forever. 🤷🏼‍♀️😂 I was 12! I ended up marrying a lanky red headed husband and living in Texas! 😂 Thanks for taking the time to post all the great details. I’m so inspired! What a wonderful mom you are! 👏 I love that you and Ben carve out the time and money to create such wonderful experiences for your family! Cheers to you both!

    1. Thanks, Melissa. I love these trips so much. Traveling with one kid, versus all 8 of us, is such a different experience. Things that are challenging or too expensive for 8, seem totally doable with just two of us.

  9. We love the Big Island when we went there (as a family). The Manta ray dive seems so awesome.
    If you wan tot hike a really cool lava tube, just come over to Washington State: Ape’s Cave near Mount St Helens is a lava tube over 1 mile long. Just remember to take extra batteries for your lamps but this is a really neat adventure to do as a family too.

    1. Kate the Great

      I agree with Sylvie: you don’t have to go back to Hawaii to see lava tubes. There’s another in Bend, Oregon.

      I was game to try it, but found I was not a fan. Stumblng around in the pitch dark, even with a flashlight, and in the cold, even in the hottest summer weather, was not my favorite. We brought light jackets and hats, but what I really wished for were gloves. The cold metal bars to grip for balance among the slippery rocks underground are not so fun to grip when they’re cold.

      I much enjoyed sitting outside the lava tube, waiting for my family to come back aboveground. But hey— the rest of my family enjoyed it. And you may, as well.

  10. I loved reading about your adventures on the Big Island with Betty. I’ve only ever been to Kauai, but while I was there, everyone kept recommending the Big Island. Thank you for your detailed itinerary, which I will bookmark for future reference!

    Also, I remember Betty picking up French particularly well when you were abroad. Just curious: Has she retained that? Our family will be making a similar move soon (for about 3 years), so I can’t help but wonder.

    1. It’s true. Betty had the most beautiful French! We tried hard to keep it up the first few years we were in Oakland, but we’ve gotten lazy about it, and she’s lost a lot of it. I really hope we get to move back to France — at least long enough to help the kids strengthen their French again.

  11. You are making me miss Hawaii and the Big Island so much! I went around this time last year and stayed with a friend for a week who was working in Waikiki. We went to the big island for 2 nights with some of her friends and had an incredible time. It was such a stunning place, so relaxed, lots to do and see. My visit to Hawaii was one of the best holidays I have ever taken and the yearning to redo it all over again is still so strong!

  12. I just love your trip rundowns – someone else said it, but you give such a concise rundown, but always with tons of good details and a good sense of how much you loved (or didn’t love) the particular activity. It may seem silly but I think it’s one of the things you are best at! Maybe a second career as a travel guide author in your future?!?!? (Kidding. But really. I have always loved these posts). I have a brother who recently relocated to Sunnyvale and I’m always sending him one “day out” or “weekend trip” post of yours for ideas because they’re so well written and inviting!

    1. I appreciate this feedback so much. These types of posts typically take more time to write and edit than other other type of post I share. I sometimes question whether it’s worth it. So I love hearing that you find these reports valuable. Thank you!

  13. It is so fun to read of your adventures. I cannot imagine going someplace and sitting on a beach reading a book the whole time – I can do that at home. But oh the amazing things these islands hold. So funny that although we have been on the big island several times you saw things we haven’t seen and didn’t see a couple of our favorites (City of refuge, coffee plantation, Apiary, Captain Cook’s beach). More trips are required!! We are not resort folks so – we always find a AirBnB or VRBO to stay in. Then we hit the farmers markets and local fish shops and enjoy most of our meals at home. And yes, we hit the beaches early when they are empty. Oh I’m ready to go back now!!

  14. Just going to add that all beaches in Hawaii are public – even those in private neighborhoods or attached to hotels. So even if they are fenced off, the owners must allow public access. Which is such a beautiful idea! The land is for all of us.

  15. I visited the Big Island last month on my first ever solo vacation leaving my family behind (sounds odd but I really wanted to do my own thing rather than plan around everyone else’s needs and wishes). I absolutely loved it! I visited many of the same places you pictured and was lucky enough to swim with dolphins twice. I stayed at the most amazing off the grid yoga center. Felt like being at summer camp! Such a beautiful place and agree I now need to go back with my family!

  16. Just found that great swimsuit ( the one piece) your daughter is wearing and of course it’s sold out! I was hoping to get it for my 12 year old lol.

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